The Gay Marriage FAQ
Was reading this post and was surprised by the arguments against gay marriage–so many misconceptions. Attempt to clarify follows after the link.
“Gay marriage should be made illegal because:”
1. The Bible says it’s a sin.
Go ahead, believe that. I’m not going to stop you. But in a country with freedom of religion, you’d better not try to legislate your beliefs, otherwise other religions should have the right to legislate theirs. Muslims could, if they chose, push through a law requiring women to wear head scarves. Buddhists could have a law making eating meat illegal. Careful what you wish for. Religion can be a legitimate starting point for a legal opinion, but it can’t be the ONLY starting point.
2. Gays spread AIDS!
AIDS is a disease that is spread by having unprotected sex/sharing needles, not by being gay. Straight people have unprotected sex AND anal sex, too–often both, because they figure there’s no point in using a condom because there’s no fear of pregnancy. There are even gay men who do not have anal sex, and I’m not talking about those who have been supposedly “converted” to straightness. Oh, and lesbians, who are also gay, have the lowest incidence of STDs/AIDS of any demographic. By contrast, the group in Eastern Europe with the fastest rising AIDS rates are straight men who have unprotected sex with prostitutes (and the prostitutes themselves). If this surprises you, you are a fool who will soon get an STD if you haven’t already.
And if you’re seriously worried about gay men running around having sex with multiple partners, what better way to prevent this than to allow them to settle down and marry?
3. It’s just not natural. Gays can’t procreate, why should the state give them rights?
a) It’s certainly natural in the animal world.
b) The rights that are being asked for (inheritance, hospital visitation, shared benefits) actually save the state money because they make it easier for the two people concerned to care for each other and stay financially and emotionally afloat, share resources and responsibilities, etc.
c) Solving infertility by complicated IVF treatments, ie test tube babies, is certainly not nature’s way of doing things, yet no one wants to legislate against that. Why not protest plastic surgery for changing things from the way God intended?
d) Lesbians can and do procreate, even (shock and horror!) right now, this minute. You can’t legislate this away. Yes it’s with donated sperm, but if a straight couple uses donated sperm, the resulting child is still considered their kid, no question. Nobody accuses them of being “unnatural”.
4. They can do what they want, have their own “marriages”, just not legally sanctioned ones.
That’s missing the point entirely. Legally sanctioned marriages (call them unions, whatever, but make them legally equal) come with certain rights and responsibilities: hospital visitation, inheritance, and so on. The church part is irrelevant, to me at least. Let each religious branch decide what they want to allow in their own places of worship. But if my partner is in the hospital alone after a car wreck, you’d better let me get to go in and see her, otherwise you’re a heartless bastard. (Bonus for Christians: God is love, remember?)
5. It’s just wrong.
How are gay marriages affecting your life personally? Why is it such a big deal to you(those of you out protesting) that you bother fighting against it? Is your marriage worse for the wear? Has crime increased? Has Massachusetts plunged into economic ruin? If it’s just “wrong”, please explain why your unreasoned, offhand opinion should affect the lives of real existing couples who care enough about each other to want to take care of each other FOREVER, even when they’re old and ailing, and for reason (1.) above, don’t give me a religion-based answer.